Asked out one of my best friends.

[The Golden Boy]

What did this teach you? Dont ask chicks out! Just WHIP IT OUT!

****... I was just going to say "don't bother asking- just stand across the room and slap her across the face with your schlong."

[innerdreamrecords.co]

I retract my previous advice, stick with what this guy said!

LOL!

[guitfiddle]

But. I did not go around telling people that I cried, on the 'net or otherwise. And if and when he looks at this thread two years from now, he's going to be ashamed of himself for saying it. "I need a good cry session" to me is something to be thought, not said aloud.

Pretty worthless advice...bottling it up and never showing any sign of emotion might be all John Wayne and stuff, but JW was an *******,IMO.

[Pink Unicorn Horsey]

Pretty worthless advice...bottling it up and never showing any sign of emotion might be all John Wayne and stuff, but JW was an *******,IMO.

John Wayne also was an actor. Being tough all the time doesn't happen in real life.

- Keith

[Kosh Naranek]

These things are so much harder at age 16. I remember stuff like this hurting a lot when I was that age. With me it was mainly unrequited crushes.
But there were a couple of female friends I had in high school who I could tell had a crush on me, and I for one reason or other didn't think becoming more than friends was a good idea. So they were the ones in an unrequited crush and I passed on good oportunities. Sometime I wonder if I should have. Would those relationships have lasted anyway? Of course not. Would they have been nice? Most likely. Healthy? A good thing for me? Could very well be.
But I really did value their friendships, still remember them fondly, and have great memories of hanging out and enjoying good times with my female friends in high school.

Smilemon, you telling your friend how you felt was a great thing to do. I hope she appreciates it. And I hope she doesn't feel like it has to change your friendship. I hope you can at least still be good friends since it sounds like that's what you were. My only advice is don't push the issue with her now. I remember one girl I was close friends with in high school had this guy in one of her classes who had it really bad for her. It wasn't mutual, but she did wanna be his friend. But he was all weepy and tragic and melodramatic about it all the time. He wouldn't stop acting like every time he saw her, she was hurting him. That behavior just disgusted her and she got fed up with him real fast.

Appreciate the friend you've got. And as for something more then friends, something will happen with the right girl some other time.

[hellatone]

Lots of good advice here bro.

My simple advice in addition to the many stated so far is to continue to move on and don't let this get you down. Learn from all the experiences and use them to your advantage. Eventually you'll catch "the right one" and all of the ones who turned you down in the past won't even matter.

Keep tyring. Stay positive. Don't give up. Keep on chasin' that tail.

Listen kid. I'm unbelievably (to me) old at this point. I've been married twice, have four kids between the two wives, did my share of dating in high school and college. And I'm a lawyer now, for whatever that's worth, and I give advice to cops all day. My clients are all cops. And IMHO, the above quoted message is the best advice I've read in this thread. I think this feels to you like a bigger deal than it is. Stay friends with the lady in question, and remember that she's probably doing you a favor by setting you off in another direction, so you can find a girl who 'gets you' but isn't carrying around that friends baggage.

[guitfiddle]

John Wayne also was an actor. Being tough all the time doesn't happen in real life.

- Keith

I know, but your point re-inforces mine...that one CAN'T be the tough guy all the time and only ever "suck it up" and "be a real man", and blahblahblah. It's better to acknowledge pain and the need to release it, and then do so than it is to keep it bottled and let that stuff poison the well.

MC seems to think that emotions and the expression of them is solely the realm of the ladies or of early teens boys, and I'm just pointing out that everyone hurts sometimes and it's better to get it out.

[Pink Unicorn Horsey]

I know, but your point re-inforces mine.

That's what I was trying to do.

[JB_From_Hell]

The two best pieces of advice given in this thread are:

In the meantime, crying is good for the soul. Just don't wallow in your sorrows. Have your time to cry, then feel better about yourself and get back out there.

and....

Dont ask chicks out! Just WHIP IT OUT!

[Smilemon]

You're 16, don't go for the best-friend type until you're ready to get a minivan and a mortgage!

The "best-friend" type is the one you marry, not the one you go after when you're 16!

Fight the urge and remember how fun it is to date crazies!

I'll keep that in mind... I really don't want to even think about minivan lifestyles right now... Ill keep my land rover and plane ticket to anywhere.

[Smilemon]

here's what you do

start dating one of the air heads that want you so bad. keep it casual since you arent into it (dont have to lead her on or nothing) and see what miss "no i dont want you no more" has to say. either she'll try to get you back and you get the girl.....OR she doesnt care and you STILL get the girl (you might be misjudging the "airheads")

Today when the main stalker/hoe/prep started talking to me I actually tried to keep a conversation going... shes really not that bad, its just not the same level of conversation...

She was one of the girls that asked me to dance at prom... I might see if she wants to go to a movie some time in the near future...

I'm not gonna let this knock me off my feet... I have lots of other things to worry about, move along... move along....

[guitfiddle]

That's what I was trying to do.

Aaaaahhhh...

[astrozombie]

Listen to me, no woman, no girl, no female is worth "not knowing what to do".
If she says no, she said no. at least you tried man. you have to realize that just trying is an accoplishment, it takes a huge amount of bravery to do this. It takes a huge amount of stress to even phrase that, and pronounce it! but you did it, be proud of yourself. i sincerely hope that she does say yes, she might have to be conviced that youre the one for her, but i wouldnt know anything about that, really. just be honest, about your feelings, about what you think about her. all you can do is be sincere, and hope that she will be too.

i wish you the best of luck, but remember, there is always tommorow, theres always going to be another gal, she isnt the only one in the universe.

[LesStrat]

****... I was just going to say "don't bother asking- just stand across the room and slap her across the face with your schlong."

That, or smooth out your eyebrows...with your tongue.

[ModestCargo]

Pretty worthless advice...bottling it up and never showing any sign of emotion might be all John Wayne and stuff, but JW was an *******,IMO.

You'd think I was "an ******* IMO" too, probably.

No skin off my back.

[guitfiddle]

You'd think I was "an ******* IMO" too, probably.

No skin off my back.

Nooo..not an *******, but a bit off the mark anyway...I just think hiding something like that as if it didn't exist is dangerous for a man's system.

[Kosh Naranek]

Welp, I'm gonna be the beligerant ******* ...

In ModCargo's defense, he did come straight out and tell us what approach he was gonna take in comforting our jilted friend. ModC, I htink your advice would have been fine, given to a man. But it's a little much to expect from a 16 year old boy. I'm with the other guys to that extent.

But you did tell us right from the start... so no one can fault you for living up to your claim. No harm done far as I can see.


Smilemon, glad to hear you're moving on and considering getting to know other girls. And yeah, sometimes the ones all the other kids look down on are actually really nice. Kids get a reputation that might be totally undeserved and can't seem to shake it until they're out of high school and have a whole new circle of friends/classmates. I look at some of my old high school yearbooks now and wonder "Why on earth did all the kids think that girl was gross? She's probably a model today!!" or "Why did we all think some other girl was such hot stuff? " We musta needed glasses.

And all too often, we didn't get to know other kids for who they were. We heard what the popular kids thought about them, and then to not be unpopular, we bought into the same opinion of them. Thank God we finally grew up, learned how to think for ourselves and learned how to appreciate people for who they were.

[scottish]

What did this teach you? Dont ask chicks out! Just WHIP IT OUT!

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