Breakin' up is hard to do...

[lex666]

anyone else here ever had to dump somebody they cared alot about?

how'd you get over it?

did you still try to talk to them and be friends, or just give them time and distance?

I still care about her, but she's not speaking to me right now... should I try to make contact?

what about that funny feeling you get that she's already fooling around with someone else? how do you get over that sick feeling?

[Jay 77]

Let it go, man. It's better for you that way. No use letting anything linger and drag on, because you're just miserable longer. And if you think she's with someone else, chances are she is.

[viewaskew2k5]

hmmm just keep your self occupied, busy with friends work etc. Don't keep yourself busy with drugs, drink and other women. Talk out your issues you know?

[Lucid_Lunatic]

Don't keep yourself busy with drugs, drink and other women.

Actually, do the opposite of this...............

[Pink Unicorn Horsey]

I had a hard time with that as well, but I got a Hot Plate. Now I can get the AC30 and the Super Reverb to break up while still keeping things at a reasonable volume. HAR!

I'm sorry…

Yes, breaking up sucks for the breaker almost as much as the breakee. I think you're right about the time and distance thing. I had a girlfriend in college with whom I broke up because the chemistry just wasn't there. I still cared for her—she's a wonderful person who deserves (and eventually got) someone who loves her deeply. I just couldn't be that guy.

I think the break needs to be clean, but you have to give her some kind of closure—as clear an explanation as possible, and a chance for her to ask some questions of you. However, be careful not to drag things out or send mixed messages. If she doesn't want to talk, leave her be, but be there if she wants to in a little while. She's got to go through the angry stage where she vilifies you.

As for the funny feeling you get that she's already fooling around with someone else, let that go with the relationship. Time and distance are your friends in that once again.

- Keith

[lex666]

Actually, do the opposite of this...............

I already do enuff drinking etc...

I just have more of a "reason" now...

Definetely not a good idea, but it does help to forget.

I wouldn't recommend it, but it works...

[B Bent]

Dude back in my dating days the second I ended it it was done. No calling no friends or anything like that. I did it for my own heart's sake. If I were to keep being friends I'd just continue hurting. That's just me, but it seems to work well for lots of folks.

[Jay 77]

Actually, do the opposite of this...............

He said after he broke up, not after he woke up!

[Lucid_Lunatic]

He said after he broke up, not after he woke up!

Break up, wake up, what's the difference?





It's 10:45 a.m., and I already have a jump on the day! Workin' on my 7th beer and other various substances................

[lpmarshall]

Sleep with her sister (if she is of legal age). If she doesn't have a sister, sleep with her mother LOL.

Seriously though, everyone has gone through this at one point. I had a girlfriend for almost two years, and two weeks after we broke up I saw her at a bar making out with a dude. On the way to the car I kicked her hubcap in half. I always hate preaching the time thing, but it does fix things. It sucks for awhile until you find something new and move on.

[jeremy]

Break up, wake up, what's the difference?





It's 10:45 a.m., and I already have a jump on the day! Workin' on my 7th beer and other various substances................

im jealous bro, they dont let me have beer at work

[Lucid_Lunatic]

im jealous bro, they dont let me have beer at work

It's not a matter of whether they will let you......................

[grumptruck]

Forget about it... Causes problems when she finds someone else. Don't be that guy that every man doesn't like. The caring ex.

Just move on and find your true love.

If you're a praying man. Pray that the Lord gives her peace and be done with it.

If you're not at least try to reach an understanding, leave on a good note, and both of you move on with your lives with new people in your life.

[Jay 77]

Listen to Three Point One Four, by the Bloodhound Gang.

[Lucid_Lunatic]

If you're a praying man. Pray that the Lord gives her peace and be done with it.

Don't stop there! Pray he sends you a peice too.

[grumptruck]

Don't stop there! Pray he sends you a peice too.

Even though thats so rude and crude... I actually did giggle on that... Sicko. lol

[baritone]

After breakups for any reason, I found the best thing was to look for the fun in being single. I don't mean run around with a bunch of women. I mean hang out with the guys, play video games, watch dumb or offensive movies, play the heck out of your guitar, etc. What you are feeling will persist for a while, but having that feeling and searching for another woman at the same time is just not a good combination. When your unhappy feelings fade away, you will be thinking clearly, and your mojo will be totally recharged. I always found I was best at relationships after I became super comfortable being single. That's when women would be more assertive, or sometimes aggressive (in a cool way).

[73roadrunner]

After breakups for any reason, I found the best thing was to look for the fun in being single. I don't mean run around with a bunch of women. I mean hang out with the guys, play video games, watch dumb or offensive movies, play the heck out of your guitar, etc. What you are feeling will persist for a while, but having that feeling and searching for another woman at the same time is just not a good combination. When your unhappy feelings fade away, you will be thinking clearly, and your mojo will be totally recharged. I always found I was best at relationships after I became super comfortable being single. That's when women would be more assertive, or sometimes aggressive (in a cool way).

this mans theory is true.....



The one time I broke up with a chick, she just pushed me over the edge. She really made me angry and I broke it off. At first I wanted to get back with her, then I slapped myself a few times to knock some sense into my head. After a long time and all that drama, no way.

[grumptruck]

Be happy being single and you'll be happy dating.

[Kosh Naranek]

did you still try to talk to them and be friends, or just give them time and distance?

I still care about her, but she's not speaking to me right now... should I try to make contact?

I have done the "staying best friends" thing in the past. It's a bad idea. Cuz you're usually actually more than just best friends deep down. So one of you or neither of you can move on. What if you were still best friends with your ex, and you met the girl of your dreams, but you couldn't give her your heart because you hadn't gotten it back from your ex yet?
She's dealing with the same thing, and that's often why women will start seeing other guys soon after a breakup.

what about that funny feeling you get that she's already fooling around with someone else? how do you get over that sick feeling?

That is hard. I've been there. Still lonely, and I find out my ex is all crazy in love with someone new. It's like she stabbed you in the heart. But women often start dating too soon after a breakup. And they may do it to really make the breakup final, not because they've found someone new that they really care about.

I found it helpful to throw myself into the things ,besides the failed relationship, that really mean a lot to me. For me it was making music.