so... I'm a homewrecker!

[stratobastard]

It's official. She moved out & is filing for divorce.

[Chris of Arabia]

The voice of experience in me says life will be 'difficult' for a while. I don't envy you.

On a lighter note, will you be changing your prefix from "strato" to "bad"?

[stratobastard]

The voice of experience in me says life will be 'difficult' for a while. I don't envy you.

On a lighter note, will you be changing your prefix from "strato" to "bad"?

It is extremely difficult, much more so for her than I. The plan is for to spend the winter living alone & not move in together immediately. She's. Been with this guy 25 years & never experienced life on her own, so to speak. And niether of us wants this to be a rebound type relationship. A considerable amount of thought has gone into her decision, it's not because she's leaving him for me, this is something she needs to do regardless of me being in the picture. Maybe I've been the catalyst, but nothing more.

[H8Red442]

It is extremely difficult, much more so for her than I. The plan is for to spend the winter living alone & not move in together immediately. She's. Been with this guy 25 years & never experienced life on her own, so to speak. And niether of us wants this to be a rebound type relationship. A considerable amount of thought has gone into her decision, it's not because she's leaving him for me, this is something she needs to do regardless of me being in the picture. Maybe I've been the catalyst, but nothing more.

Oh so familiar. Watch yourself. For your own good.

[BloodRose]

It is extremely difficult, much more so for her than I. The plan is for to spend the winter living alone & not move in together immediately. She's. Been with this guy 25 years & never experienced life on her own, so to speak. And niether of us wants this to be a rebound type relationship. A considerable amount of thought has gone into her decision, it's not because she's leaving him for me, this is something she needs to do regardless of me being in the picture. Maybe I've been the catalyst, but nothing more.

This, is gooooooood thinking! For you both. I FULLY understand all you are saying and I hope it all works out for you! Her husband either proved he doesnt care or doesnt think she is gonna actually do it.

[Low_fidelity2100]

well, make sure you stick something in her pooper before she comes to her senses.

[GoldenVulture]

It's official. She moved out & is filing for divorce.

So is hubby devastated? Feeling guilty?

[stratobastard]

So is hubby devastated? Feeling guilty?

His response to her telling him that she's moving out & wants a divorce was. "Ok... (big pause) we have a lot of stuff".

[Aceman]

I hope you find resolution quickly and cleanly.

[grumptruck]

U wrecked ur own home?

[JOLLY]

So, you caused a married couple to get a divorce because you had sex with her? If that's the case, that's not something I would be proud of.

[texasguitarslinger]

NSFW

[H8Red442]

Wait till she dumps you when she realizes she doesn't really know what she wants. Those are fun times.

[GuitarStv]

The time for her to file for divorce and move out is before she has sex with you. The time to move out of a loveless marriage is when it becomes loveless . . . not when you determine that something better has come along. She didn't bother to do this, which really makes her a bad person. Given her lack of concern for her previous partner that you've described, it's not surprising that people expect you to have trouble in the future.

[Bass_Medic_05]

The time for her to file for divorce and move out is before she has sex with you. The time to move out of a loveless marriage is when it becomes loveless . . . not when you determine that something better has come along. She didn't bother to do this, which really makes her a bad person. Given her lack of concern for her previous partner that you've described, it's not surprising that people expect you to have trouble in the future.

I usually don't get involved in these threads, because I'm not one for giving good advise to anyone except myself. But I will have to agree with Steve....strictly my opinion only.

[stratobastard]

I usually don't get involved in these threads, because I'm not one for giving good advise to anyone except myself. But I will have to agree with Steve....strictly my opinion only.

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How could you guys possibly think she has a lack of concern for her husband??
Do you know what discussions the've had, the life they've experienced together?
There's a bit more to the story between her & her husband than I'm saying here, but. that's between them & noone elses business.
And who may I ask, mentioned anything at all about sex?
That's an assumption that steve made all on his own

[St_Genesius]

I've been the Other man before. Hope it works out for you the way you want.

[Lazarus1140]

I regret to say that I have been on both sides of this situation in my life. As it stands now I can only be sorry that this woman and/or her husband were unwilling to work at restoring the kind of relationship that initially brought them together.

[H8Red442]

I regret to say that I have been on both sides of this situation in my life. As it stands now I can only be sorry that this woman and/or her husband were unwilling to work at restoring the kind of relationship that initially brought them together.

As have I. And let me say, it ended up the same way both times.

[Powdered Toast Man]

Dude, I've never been in your position, but to those who are attacking Strat, I say this. He did nothing wrong. Unless he somehow has magical mind control powers, she made her own decisions. If she was happy in her marriage, she would have never let anything go as far as it has. Why didn't she leave her husband before? Probably the same reason a lot of people don't leave their situations - it's a comfortable rut. It's much harder to make a major life change than it is to just go with the flow. She might have left her husband eventually with or without Strat's involvement. SHE is the one who is married and SHE is the one who had obligations or commitments to break. Strat does not have to concern himself with their bonds of marriage. She made her own choices.

Here's a song about being the other man: