Lumbering dinosaur (what's a master volume control?)
Strat, I hope it works for you. I've been in similar situations in the past (on all sides of the "love triangle"), and while they've never worked out in my favor, they certainly can and do. Give her time and space and see what happens.
1. "I just did something really questionable, but I want to feel good about it, so I'm seeking validation on the forum."
2. "I just did something really questionable, and I get my kicks by stirring up controversy, so I'm gonna post it on the forum and get my back up if anyone questions me."
How bout the Jesse James and Kat Von D? Jesse James cheated on Sandra Bullock with another girl(s) which resulted in divorce with them. Then eventually he was on again off again with Kat Von D who now claims he cheated on her with 19 different girls (surprise surprise...lol). Having said that, some people never change. When someone has betrayed trust once there is good reason to have doubt in them in the future. Regardless, that your friends marriage was over a long time ago, as said, it doesn't change the fact that she is still married and is bailing from her marriage to be with you. Hopefully, things will workout the way you expect but there are definately things to be concerned about as history does tend to repeat itself. As said, who's to say that this girl wouldn't leave you for someone else if she became unhappy in a relationship or marriage with you? As said, watch yourself.....
Last edited by GuitarGuy503; 11-17-2011 at 02:34 PM.
This is the kind of thing I'd keep for myself real quiet y'know?
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I wonder how many other guys she was with before Strato while she was still married.
Why is it assumed anyone, of either sex, who eventually cheats on their partner - no matter how crap their relationship - must be a whore?
You guys are incredibly childish. It seems to be "Jesus says its bad so BURN motherf**ker!" or "she did it with you, she will do it again cos shes a SLAG!"
You DO know how to write a full sentence, yes?
I assume you just feel the need to have a high post count as many people on forums like this do.
Every love that made me lose my reasoning. Every chord that made my conscience ache. Every day spent counting hours. Well, none of them comes close to singing back a song inside my head.
I remember calloused hands and paint-stained jeans, and I remember safe-as-houses self-belief.
I6 IN DA HAO-USSSSSE
C'mon, guys, cut them both some slack. You're not in their position, and Heaven forbid that you were (been there myself), I've no doubt you'd have the same sentiments as Strat and the lady in question. Why can't you just wish them good luck?
Romans 3:23; 6:23; 5:8; 10:13; 10:9-10
What I find funny, is that Strato and a few others in response seem to think this behavior is acceptable simply because she was unhappy in her marriage and that the husband didn't care. Maybe so, but they should have addressed that and moved on. The fact is they remained married and that no matter how you try to spin it, it was an affair, and IMO was immoral. But again, that's IMO. I'm sure the fact I've been married for 24 years contributes to my opinion.
I have a cousin who was in a similar situation. He was cheating with a (unhappily) married woman. In his mind, he was rescuing her. The marriage ended upon discovery of the affair and she, and her 2 kids, moved in with my cousin. They got married as soon as her divorce was final. Fast-forward 9 years and another kid and they just separated pending divorce because she was cheating on him and he was obsessed with trying to catch her in it. Add the drinking and fighting and it was a horrible situation for both of them, and most of all the kids who were the real victims of the debauchery.
Good luck with your situation, you're going to need it. Castles made of sand............