Have You Ever Cheated?

[Jeff_H]

Not looking for a confession here, or to judge anyone. Just wondering. It can be an infidelity on a girlfriend, wife, or other close relationship (so Theodie feels included).

How did it turn out? Was it a one time thing, or something ongoing?

I have once in my life. During college I was living with my then girlfriend. I was a senior and met a freshman while I was waiting tables. She was one of the most beautiful women at the time I had ever seen, and she was interested in me. I guess I was at that stage in my relationship where it was getting "settled" for lack of a better term. It was also my longest relationship to date at that point. I cheated with her just once, but it was one of those nights that you just remember as almost perfect.

I didn't end up leaving my girlfriend at that point, but the girl I cheated with did end up being my daughters mom. In retrospect, I wish I hadn't done it. She turned out to be literally the living incarnation of all that is evil, but my daughter was a result of the relationship (but not of the initial incident), and I wouldn't change that for anything. So, depending on how you look at it, that was the reason I chose that path..because I was meant to have my daughter.

How about you?

[JB_From_Hell]

While my wife and I were dating, it became (what I thought was) abundantly clear that we were done, save for actually announcing it. I messed around with a friend a few times, but stopped when things started looking better.

2 years later, when my wife and I were separated, and she had been at the lawyer's office, drawing up divorce papers, the same girl happened to drive by my house, and see me standing in the front yard, smoking a cigarette. We hadn't seen each other in quite awhile, so she came in, and we sat and talked, and crammed several years of life into like 4 hours. The first time there was a pause in the conversation, we kind of looked at each other funny, leaned in to kiss, and ended up in the bedroom. Afterward, I kissed her again, and we hugged each other for a long time.

The next time I saw her was about another 2 years later, at her funeral.

[newking70]

is this the penthouse forum

[Low_fidelity2100]

The next time I saw her was about another 2 years later, at her funeral.

what an odd way to end a sex story....."I ****ed her a couple times. But she's dead now."

[Aceman]

Never. I think the cheating in a relationship thing is a major fowl, and likely a good reason to end the relationship. But not always. When it get's to marriage I feel very different about it. You need to man up an leave if that's what you want to do.

Had a couple of marital moments where it came to threats of that. me or her got our act together fortunately. I just think cheating in the marriage is a total wuss thing. Your too afraid to leave, and too lazy to fix it. That's weak. I'm not saying you won't ever meet that one perfect person / soulmate and it NOT be your spouse of the moment. But as the Hottest band in the world would say: Whoo hoo hoo, got to choose! (didn't see the KISS reference coming - did ya?!?!?!?!)

[thucydides]

Never. I think the cheating in a relationship thing is a major fowl, and likely a good reason to end the relationship. But not always. When it get's to marriage I feel very different about it. You need to man up an leave if that's what you want to do.

Had a couple of marital moments where it came to threats of that. me or her got our act together fortunately. I just think cheating in the marriage is a total wuss thing. Your too afraid to leave, and too lazy to fix it. That's weak. I'm not saying you won't ever meet that one perfect person / soulmate and it NOT be your spouse of the moment. But as the Hottest band in the world would say: Whoo hoo hoo, got to choose! (didn't see the KISS reference coming - did ya?!?!?!?!)

Haven't read all the posts yet, but I am completely with you, Aceman. Didn't see the KISS ref coming, but I'm digging it..."Got to Choose" is my favorite song by them!

[Skullkrusher]

Nope.....never.

[BigAlTheBird]

Never. Then again I'm still a young buck. But I think that's one of the lower things you can do.

That said, I'm not trying to judge anyone. I've been in a few circumstances where it could have happened. I wasn't close to doing anything, but if I would have pursued it, at all, it would've happened. One of the chicks is one of the best looking girls I know of, freshman year here she was having boyfriend problems, and we went for a walk at like 1 in the morning. Nothing was close to happening, but like I said, it could of. I kinda regret that walk sometimes actually, knowing that I was setting myself up in a bad place.

Freshman year, I also got drunk, and fell asleep on this chick with my arm around her. Pretty innocuous, but I feel bad about it sometimes.

Edit: I would post a small pic I have, but I'd feel bad about that.

[TimmyPage]

Nope. I never plan on it.. but I'm young and.. I don't exactly know whats going to happen in the future.

I have however been cheated on.. she is Satan incarnate.. the friend that introduced us had us both over recently.. it was awkward.. and.. very very cynical on both ends of the conversation.

[Skullkrusher]

......This one time, at band camp.......nvm.

[big_black]

Nope.

[Gr8Scott]

Nope. Closest I've ever come to cheating was not waiting until the relationship had been dead for a week before getting right back in the saddle with someone else. I've always had the testicular fortitude to dump a girl if I felt like cheating on her. It ain't nice, but it's nicer than cheating on her.

[Gr8Scott]

Man, don't take this the wrong way...

I'd always figured you, out of anybody on this forum, to have been a cheater. I'm not sure why, maybe something i'd picked up on regarding your sometimes disagreeable attitude towards women.

Kudos to you for never having done it. You've gained respect from me anyhow.

Like i said, no offence.

No biggie. I'm playing guitar and having fun with a new amp, so you could probably step on my sack right now and I'd hardly notice. I'm a horndog, but a loyal one. If I'm not feeling loyal, I'm quick to let my partner know about it. I might be a disagreeable git, but I try to be an honorable git while I'm at it.

[Rusty Shackelford]

Never have and never will. I couldn't do that to my girlfriend and I have a very bad (but good mind you) guilty conscience. I just think it's wrong to do that to someone. If it happened to me I'd be devestated.

[nepalnt21]

ive never cheated, but i have done stuff with other girls while in the relationship i am in now

[nepalnt21]

Therein lies the question;

What counts as cheating?

in my definition, messing around without her being o.k. with it.

[nepalnt21]

So i assume then that you're current girlfriend must have been ok with that.

Cool for you. I know a few people who have 'open relationships' like that.

Not for me though, i'd hate it.

it sucks. she has all the fun.:6:

[34029324079]

no

I dated alot of girls at once but that is different because they could be doing the same to me

hence "going steady"

[34029324079]

^^thats f'd up. last girl I was steady with wanted it that way. what a pig. I dont have time for lulus so I dropped her like bad meatloaf and was out of there like a bat out of hell

[nepalnt21]

^^thats f'd up. last girl I was steady with wanted it that way. what a pig. I dont have time for lulus so I dropped her like bad meatloaf and was out of there like a bat out of hell

lol its not really like all that. im engaged to her, and she also moved across the country. its really helping both of us deal with the stress of the long distance. its actually done wonders, its just that she is better looking and more confident than i am, so she gets more action.

i havent lived long, but i have seen cheating ruin relationships, and also help them out. its impossible to be attracted to one person you're entire life, and its not worth fretting over things like that, in my most humble opinion. it doesnt mean they love you any less.